BARBIE AND KEN WALTZ

She's HOW old?! GWEN STEFANI,41, rocks the cover of COSMO March 2015

She’s how old?!
GWEN STEFANI, 41, rocks the cover of COSMO March 2015

JADA JAMS at 43! (And, no jelly on that bod!) SHAPE mag Jan/Feb 2015

JADA JAMS at 43!
(No jelly on that bod!) SHAPE mag Jan/Feb 2015

A man I know, age 36 and infamous for (exclusively) dating (extremely young) college girls (I’m talking undergrads, including Freshmen!), was telling me how super-young girls–that is, teenagers and early 20s–are considered the most desirable by our culture. Fashion magazines don’t have grown women on the covers, he asserted, as “proof” of his claim. He cited Taylor Swift as a particular example of this youth culture craze.
Well, I just didn’t think that could be right, based all the magazines I’ve seen at the grocery store check-out–besides women like JLo, Sophia Vergara, Jennifer Aniston, and Elle Macpherson being all over the place. But, I’m not into fashion mags, so I wouldn’t be paying attention to who was on which magazine type. So, I had a look!
WOW! He just couldn’t have been more wrong (misguided, more likely). He either hasn’t looked at magazine covers lately, and/or, he has serious tunnel vision and only zeroes-in on certain types (i.e. adolescents still in their training bras)

SOFIA SIZZLES at 42! SHAPE mag Nov 2014 They don't call her "Sofia Viagra" for nothing!

SOFIA SIZZLES at 42!
SHAPE mag Nov 2014
They don’t call her “Sofia Viagra” for nothing!

I was at the library, and when I walked in, I noticed the magazine shelves. I never get anything in this section.
However, they caught my particular attention because of what he said about fashion magazine covers only featuring young girls.

CHRISTY TURLINGTON, 46, Supermodel of the 90s--and NOW!

CHRISTY TURLINGTON, 46, Supermodel of the 90s–and NOW! Calvin Klein ad 2014

I am pleased to report that, as wretched/sick/youth-obsessed as the world may be, it is not nearly to the extent that he makes it. Thank God! Don’t worry, it’s still plenty superficial based on my findings. The sweeping majority are pretty people without cellulite. Only one, Lena Dunham, is un-skinny. In fact, she’s chubby. She’s also rather un-pretty. She’s also one of the four youngest. Weird. (I thought the young girls were supposed to be the main hotties.)
I was only looking at the first issue, the one on display, not those stacked behind them. But, then, I thought, “Well, maybe this one’s just an anomaly.” But, nooo! Haggard old lady after haggard old lady continued to pollute the covers with their bare rictuses!
Why is Christy Turlington, at 46, still a supermodel, and allowed to do Calvin Klein ads in a bathing suit? Outrageous!
Angelina Jolie? Jada Pinkett-Smith? Eva Longoria? Who would find them beautiful and sexy?!? Gross.

 

RUN, CINDY, RUN! CINDY CRAWFORD still a bikini babe well into her 40s

RUN, CINDY, RUN!
CINDY CRAWFORD still a bikini babe well into her 40s

VALENTINE VIXEN CINDY CRAWFORD, 49, sunning herself while husband snaps this shot for Instagram Feb 14, 2014

VALENTINE VIXEN
CINDY CRAWFORD, 49,
sunning herself while husband snaps this shot for Instagram
Feb 14, 2014

Here’s what I found: (From most current issue on-shelf to least current)

COSMO:

GWEN STEFANI, 45

RITA ORA, 24

KYLIE JENNER, 17

MEGAN FOX, 28

CHRISSY TEIGEN, 29

WHOA, J LO! Jennifer Lopez, 45, BILLBOARD mag June 2014

WHOA, J LO!
Jennifer Lopez, 45, BILLBOARD mag June 2014

GLAMOUR:

ALLISON WILLIAMS, 26

REESE WITHERSPOON, 38

LUPITA NYONG’O, 31

JESSICA CHASTAIN, 37

LUSCIOUS LUCY LUCY LIU, 46 Emmys 2015

LUSCIOUS LUCY
LUCY LIU, 46
Emmys 2015

ELLE:

LENA DUNHAM, 28

ELIZABETH BANKS, 41

RIHANNA, 26

SIREN SELMA SELMA HAYEK, 48

SIREN SELMA
SELMA HAYEK, 48

ANNA KENDRICK, 29

ANGELINA JOLIE, 39 (40 this June)

MILEY CYRUS, 22

KRISTEN STEWART, 24

KRISTEN WIIG, 41

HOT DISH! PADMA LAKSHMI, 44, host of Top Chef at charity ball Oct 2014

HOT DISH!
PADMA LAKSHMI, 44, host of Top Chef at charity ball
Oct 2014

VOGUE: 

DAKOTA JOHNSON, 25     

AMY ADAMS, 40

REESE WITHERSPOON, 38

ADS IN VOGUE (These are just from the 1st issue I perused–and I didn’t look through the whole thing.)

JENNIFER CONNELLY, 44, LOUIS VUITTON

CATE BLANCHETT, 45, ARMANI   

MADONNA, 56, VERSACE

AMY ADAMS, 40, MAX MARA


NAOMI CAMPBELL, 44, BURBERRY

CHRISTY TURLINGTON, 46, MAYBELLINE

L’OREAL: EVA LONGORIA-39, BIANCA BALTI-30, LETICIA CASTA-36
(There were also a couple of super-young girls, so I don’t think this is a “mature woman’s” brand.)

LATINA: (Not sure this counts as fashion mag.)

ADRIENNE BAILON, 31

EVA LONGORIA, 39 (40 in March 2015)

EVA-LUTION! LATINA mag Oct 2014

EVA-LUTION!
LATINA mag Oct 2014

LOREAL loves LONGORIA! EVA LONGORIA, almost 40

LOREAL loves LONGORIA!
EVA LONGORIA, almost 40

SHAPE, HEALTH, and WOMEN’S HEALTH:
(Not fashion mags, but all nearly-naked bodies, so still significant.)

JADA PINKETT-SMITH, 43

KATE MARA, 31     

KATE HUDSON, 35

BROOKE BURKE-CHARVEL, 43

JENNIFER WIDERSTROM, 32

So, out of 26 covers: (Not counting the ads)
Only 1 teenager
10 in their 20s: Only 3 early-20s (under 25), and Only 3 mid-20s (under 27)
Of the 10 30-somethings, 6 are 35+. 2 of them turn 40 this year–1 in 4 months, the other NEXT month.
6 old ladies in their 40s (How’d they sneak in?!)
So, I’d say only FOUR of 27 are very to super young (24 to teen). Huh.
But, let’s not stop there! Let’s keep going up that Aging Hottie (hah!) ladder, shall we?

Electric Elle! Aussie icon Elle Macpherson at 50

ELECTRIC ELLE!
Aussie icon Elle Macpherson at 50

ELLE 50 YACHT BIKINI

ELLE, 50, on yacht with green juice drink. She says it’s the secret to her youthful appearance. I’ll have what she’s having!

Like

CHRISTY BRINKLEY (supermodel of the 80s!)
at 60

Supermodel is SUPERWOMAN! age 60

SUPERMODEL is SUPERWOMAN!
age 60

BAM-BEVERLY!  BEVERLY JOHNSON, 62, supermodel of the 70s and 80s, first Black model on covers of Vogue and Elle Sept. 2014

BAM-BEVERLY!
BEVERLY JOHNSON, 62, supermodel of the 70s and 80s, first Black model on covers of Vogue and Elle
Sept. 2014

IMAN,58 (in this shot), Supermodel of the 70s and beyond MODA S mag DEC 2013

IMAN, 58 (in this shot), Supermodel of the 70s and beyond
MODA S mag DEC 2013

This is cause for rejoicing! And not just for us elderly women over 25.
See, this is good news for you, too, gentlemen:
Most GQ covers also had grown men on them. (The last 4 cover models were men aged 31, 20, 41, and 45.)
So, should you ever become a famous baller or whoremonger or something, you, too, can compete with–and even best–the recent Disney Channel grads!

M-I-C- "C" is for cocaine!

M-I-C-
“C” is for cocaine!

Miley, Selena Gomez, Demi Lovato, Taylor Swift, and Zac Ephron are among the alumni. Golly, they were so gosh-darn cute before they met cocaine and cocktails! Except Taylor. She’s still the poster girl for Wholesome Homecoming Queens. This is why I’m happy to have my little nieces among her fans, even though she’s absolutely silly. Once they’re in high school, though, I’m insisting they idolize Oprah and Sotomayor, damn it!

SUZANNE SOMERS, 68 Dancing with the Stars From TV's dumb blonde to brilliant businesswoman!

SUZANNE SOMERS, 68
Dancing with the Stars
From TV’s dumb blonde to brilliant businesswoman!

RAQUEL ROARS  at the Emmys  RAQUEL WELCH, 73 Sept. 2013

RAQUEL ROARS
at the Emmys
RAQUEL WELCH, 73
Sept. 2013

RAQUEL ROCKS at 74! Costume Designer Guild Awards Sept 2014

RAQUEL ROCKS at 74!
Costume Designer Guild Awards
Sept 2014

RED HOT SCREEN QUEEN SOPHIA LOREN, 80, at her birthday party Sept. 2014

RED HOT SCREEN QUEEN
SOPHIA LOREN, 80, at her birthday party
Sept. 2014

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WELL, WHADDAYA KNOW? NYE VINTAGE PIN UP GIRLCHAMPANGE GLASSES AND MIDNIGHT CLOCKThis year, the dirty old man in red fur (aka Santa Baby) FINALLY granted one of the Most Wanted items on my long-standing (and long-ignored) Christmas Wish List. In fact, it has been my longest-requested item, besting all others with its 20-year reign. HOO-RAAAAAAY!!!
If you’ve read my other Santa posts, you well know that I, Venusian Goddess though I am (by now, this has been long-since indisputable–just accept it, please), underwent a ridiculously lengthy dry spell (I mean, like such that creates death in the African savannas) of (consecutive) Dateless New Year’s Eves.
Go ahead–guess the number of years! Half a dozen? Higher. A decade? Alas, longer. Well, you’ll never guess (if you haven’t already read my previous posts), so I’ll just tell you and end the suspense (which surely must be killing you).
TWENTY! That’s right, TWENTY. Noooo, not twenty months. No, you did not read that wrongly.

Yes, I really went TWENTY YEARS IN A ROW without a New Year’s Eve* date.

Not that I haven’t had some good NYE* times in spite of this, but, still, NYE is one of the biggest, most important date nights of the year, if not the most. I think it even supersedes Valentine’s Day which is only for official couples (or, those hoping to be). Let’s face it, you can’t really have a casual Valentine’s date; the high-romance lovey-dovey is just too obligatory.
But, with NYE, you can get all dolled up and go out on the glittering town, have a ridiculously expensive dinner and/or entrance fee, sip bubbly, and dance the blinking, flashy night away in the arms of someone you barely know (but find totally hot), culminating with that amusingly symbolic Midnight Kiss at the stroke of the New Year. IN SEARCH OF MIDNIGHT KISS
Then you go around wishing Happy New Year to total strangers while you all sing along to Auld Lang Syne playing not-too obtrusively, yet importantly, in the background.
You definitely have sex with your date even if it’s a first date. Because, hey–it’s New Year’s Eve. These things are permitted–even by the men in my First Date Sex survey who said “no way”, “too fast”, “slutty”. Even these delightful prudes are willing to withhold their Victorian judgment and ring in the New Year with a bang! (i.e. sexual fireworks after the other kind.)NYE FIREWORKS

So I have, at long last, ended my reign as Queen of Dateless New Year’s Eves. Yes, after TWENTY DATELESS YEARS.MASCARA RUNNING BEAUTY QUEEN

I even passed up Susan Lucci, who had to suffer through a humiliating nineteen consecutive years of Emmy Nomination Without Actual Emmy. Yes, Susan, your nearly two decades of Emmy teases were eventually bested by me as I passed Number 15, 18, 20 Dateless NYE.
But here is the REAL KICKER. The thing that will totally blow you away.….are you ready?

My NYE date this year was the LAST NYE DATE I HAD, TWENTY YEARS AGO! OMG. I swear, it’s true! I ended up with the guy I dated twenty years ago when I was super-young. He even remarked that I “had a dress like that when we were dating” referring to the RED HOT little number I barely squashed my boobs through on December 31, 2014. Which I paired with an impossibly glittery pair of near hooker-high heels. Which I never took off the entire night–not once! Because, hey–this is not Amateur Night for me, baby. I’m a pro. (Uh–not like that! You know what I mean. Stop it.)

My actual shoe. Sorry, that's all of my outfit I am willing to show you.

My actual shoe. Sorry, that’s all of my outfit I am willing to show you.

FIRST NYE KISS MEME

So, I got all dolled up (I have to say that I looked totally effin’ HOT), had a glamorous evening in an elegant venue, sipped bubbly, had a well-mannered, well-dressed, good-looking date (who, btw, looks pretty damn good without clothes), kissed at midnight, and got home safely (in the hands of a sober driver) where we continued with an after-hours party pas de deux.  (i.e. more dancing, more wine, and engaging in sexual congress like crazed weasels in heat)CRAZY WEASEL COUPLE

Symbolic of our private after-hours party activity--POP!

Symbolic of our private after-hours party activity–POP!

So, what more can I say, except, THANKS, SANTA!
See you next year? Please, let’s not make it another twenty before you go down my chimney again.
(Gee, that somehow sounds dirty.)

HAPPY NEW YEAR 2015!

Blessings of bubbly and bling,
Silk
2015 SIGN FIREWORK LIGHTS

Found this on the internet, laughed until my eyes teared up!

DEAR SANTA VULGAR

DEAR MR. CLAUS–SANTA LETTER 2006

Posted: December 19, 2014 in Uncategorized

Dear Mr. Claus,DEAR SANTA ADVICE
You are fast-becoming just one more man who’s lured a girl with false hopes, taunted her with her own dreams, then smashed her gingerbread n’ candy cane delusions to bits. I’ve never once complained, never slandered you, haven’t gone around telling all 5-year-olds that you don’t exist. No, through all these years of being unwaveringly slighted by you, I have yet remained faithful. “Maybe it’s Alzheimer’s,” I rationalize. “The guy’s old. He just forgot where I live—and who can keep up with all my changes of address, anyway? Can’t blame the geezer for that.” So, I am giving you yet, another chance at redemption.
Note: For ease of use, I have divided my requests into categories. You’re welcome.

BONFIRE OF THE VANITIES:
*Liposuction (You know where) COOKIES FOR SANTA2
*Boob lift (You know why)
*Collagen injections (If it’s good enough for Cindy Crawford, it’s good enough for me! NOTE: She’s finally admitted she’s been having this done since age 29.)
*The nearly-perfect, blemish-free skin I had before I turned 30 and entered late-life puberty (complete with schoolgirl crush)

FRANKENSILK:
*Tina Turner’s legs
*J.Lo’s tummy (I already have the big, brown, booty)
*My niece’s hair
*My nephew’s eyelashes
*Whitney Houston’s pre-Bobby, pre-crack vocal chords (Anyone else see her perform at the Winter Olympics Awards Plaza? Embarrasing. Sad. Very sad.)

PAMPER ME, PLEASE:
*Live-in Masseur with HUGE hands
*Jacuzzi
*Sauna like in Korea (Mmm…those were the best!), colored rock &crystal mosaics, and marble floor for cooling down included.

BROWN AMBITION TOUR: (Both a nod and a jab at Madonna, circa 1990)
*Book deal with whomever published Bridget Jones’ Diary (Yes, actually, I do know it was Penguin Publishers.)
*Book signings in New York City: Barnes and Noble in Columbus Circle
and Washington Square (You know, where Sting and Tim Burton had their signings—my mom still has the photos!)
*Guest spot on Oprah
* Cover of Vanity Fair (US, UK, Italy, France)

AB-FAB IMPOSSIBLE:
*Night watchman tour of the Louvre Museum

FAMILY WOMAN:
*Nice house for my mom with housekeeper and cook, in undisclosed location so you-know-who and his horrid wife can’t try to move in–again–with their litter.
*Six sons: Two in college (earning top marks, of course), the other four aged 20 months to three years (a set of two-year-olds would be nice) and a nanny for each. (I’ve changed enough diapers to last my whole life plus two others, starting with my brother’s when I was six. Thank you for preparing me with that Poopy Patty Doll you gave me when I was four. A teddy bear would have been less complicated–and, probably more fun–but you knew what was good for me.)

HOME AND HEARTH:
*Organic farm with all necessary laborers. (Didn’t say I wanted to work on the farm.)
*Winery (ditto)

SOUL FOOD:
*Unshakable peace and serenity
*The quiet, graceful confidence of Maya Angelou in “Phenomenal Woman”.

And, finally–you knew this was coming!–

* A FABULOUS DATE FOR NEW YEAR’S EVESUSAN LUCCI EMMY PEOPLE MAG
Let’s face it, I’ve become the Susan Lucci of New Year’s Eve.
Note for the uninitiated: Arguably the USA’s most popular soap opera star ever, Ms. Lucci was, nonetheless, nominated, then passed over for the Daytime Emmy Award (TV’s “Oscar”) THIRTEEN YEARS IN A ROW.
I am now on my TWELFTH consecutive year of dateless New Year’s Eves. In fact, this date better include a jet, opera, Armani, and a midnight Cristal toast atop the Eiffel Freaking Tower.
Let him be married, gay, or crazy, and I JUMP! Don’t screw this up, mister!

COCOA FOR SANTASo, there it is.
The stockings will be hung (black fishnets ok?). The cookies will be warm. The cocoa will be spiced with your favorite pretty poison. I will be cozily snug in my bed with visions of Denzel, Clooney, etc.–you know the drill. My hopes hang on you, Claus. Fail me not.
As the song goes, “I really do believe in you…let’s see if you believe in ME.”
(“Santa Baby” by Javits & Springer, 1953)

Faithfully (if, skeptically) yours,

Silk

Santa's Cookies and Milk Martin

DEAR SANTA SLIM BODY

Ok, kids!
If you haven’t done so already (ya’ slackers!), it’s time to get out your best pen and stationery and write your letter to Santa. I know, I know, you’d rather email or, even, text, but, NO! Give not in to this new millennium temptation. After all, you wouldn’t leave the jolly old elf virtual cookies and milk, would you? (And, if you would, get the hell off my site, you heretic! I’ll not stand for such sacrilege here.)

Here, as inspiration, are Auntie Silk’s very own Santa letters (read: desperate pleas), starting with this one from the Way Back Machine, 2004, Milan, Italy.

Dear Santa,   angel kid
I have been a VERY good girl this year. Exceptionally so, I would say. In fact, I can’t think of anything bad I have done. (Well, maybe one or two things, but I hardly think those should count–heck, nobody’s perfect.) So, I am asking for just a little extra this Christmas.       DIAMOND BRA

1. Laptop PC (Please include MS Office and Internet, without which, it’s just a glorified typewriter.)

2. Fabulous date for New Year’s Eve, or, as I will be in Italy, “San Silvestre/Capo D’anno”. ( I already have the gown and, more or less, the coach, so you can give Madame Bibbity Bobbity the night off. I detest rodents, anyway.)

3. Work Visa so I can support myself abroad without fear of prison or deportation, or, worse, marriage to an Italian man.

4. Nice apartment in Milan(o), rent and utilities paid for a 12 month minimum. (I like Via Tamburini, where my doctor lives, but just do your best, sweetie. That’s all I ask.)

5. thru 8. A brain, a heart, a home, courage. Oh, wait–I’m plagiarizing Frank Baum AND MGM studios. (But, still, a very good wish list.)

9. Movie deal starring in off-beat, witty, romantic comedy of manners (in style of Oscar Wilde) with any or all of the following: Denzel, Ray Liotta, Johnny (duh). Preferably, with all 3 in hot pursuit of my affections, and no other actresses under 60. (Joan Plowright and Dame Judi Dench would be o.k..)

10. As a stocking stuffer, should you be feeling extra generous and rewarding of good behavior (I’ll hang one, just in case), I have always fancied myself in the Victoria’s Secret diamond-studded brassiere. (You know what size–after all, you see me when I’m sleeping, you sly old dog!) Never mind there being no occasion to wear such a thing as I have been invited neither to the MTV Awards nor a party hosted by Donatella Versace (or, Cher). Heck, if I have a diamond bra, I’ll wear it to Wal-Mart!

Oh, yeah, and World Peace. (You must have some connections, see what you can do.)NOBEL PRIZE

Now, Santa, darling, I wouldn’t dare attempt flattery–you’re much too sharp for that!–but, sincerely, I have always been partial to elderly men in red fur. I find them extremely attractive. People Magazine has been wrong all these years–YOU are the Sexiest Man Alive.

See you soon, sweetest, bestest, favoritest, handsomest, smartest, most GENEROUS Santa Claus EVER.
XOXO (ad infintum),
Love,
Your (nearly) Perfect Little Angel,
Silky

P.S. The cookies will be waiting!Cartoon-Cookies-and-Milk-for-Santa

REHAB

Actually, it’s more of a deep, dark, cave But, yes, there are signs of life here, so don’t stick a mortician’s tag on my toe just yet– haven’t even freshened up my pedicure!

So, how’s it going out there in the Land of Singles? Any new slam dance partners, experiences, headaches smashing into others in the mosh pit?

I just wanted to say, “Hello and long time, no see” since I’ve been on an unexpected hiatus. Definitely in Dating Detox after a way-too recent dating DISASTER. Thought I’d found love, but, alas….instead, what I found was a very sick man who needs a serious head adjustment. (And, apparently, I need a chastity belt to keep me out of further trouble. SIGH.)

So, that was a nice little romance! Fun, fun, FUN!

There’s a reason I named this site “Singles SLAM dance” not, “The Hokie-Pokie.”

So, feel free to share your adventures with Auntie Silk so she can live vicariously (i.e. risk-free) through you!

And, if you know a custom chastity belt artisan, get in contact and I’ll send you my measurements.

Happy Hunting!

Love,

Silky

chastity-belt

BARBIE AND KEN WALTZ

And now, the moment we’ve all been waiting for…the BIG REVEAL!

Sex on the First Date? Yes or No? What do you think of the woman? Is she slutty? Liberated? Moving too fast? SEX ON FIRST DATE TWO CHICKS

The OVERWHELMING MAJORITY, 62 men, said YES! 5 said it was “liberated”.
But, there’s a caveat—there must be a “strong connection”/great chemistry for almost every single one of these men. Otherwise, they say, it’s slutty. Yes, the guys say they want to feel special, as if they’re the only one you would do this. One guy even suggested that the woman tell her date that. i.e. “I don’t normally do this…”
Gregory, 40: “A normal guy will never think badly of a girl who gave it up on a first date as long as he thinks that it only happened with him. He will attribute it to his animalistic attraction.:-) So keep him believing it was a once in a lifetime thing for you.”


Some men offered the perspective that, after a certain amount of pre-date contact, it’s not really the “first” date.
Michael, 42: “After a bunch of emails, you’re pretty much on the third date by the time you meet.”
Robert-51: “A lot of the foreplay happens mentally before that first date. And she’s not the only one having sex on the first date. So if there’s a judgment to be made, it goes both ways.”

These men further eschew the label “slutty”:
Dan, 45:
“She’s not slutty, but open minded enough to enjoy things in life.”

Amos, 40s group: “I would consider her a woman who knows what she wants and goes after it, a liberated woman on equal footing with a guy.”

GREG, 30:
“I’ve had my two longest relationships with people who have blown me on the first date. Sometimes the chemistry is there and it is acceptable. I’m not judging that, I’m happy if someone wants to sleep with me. I think maybe at 21, it seemed a little ‘easy’ (slutty), but as you get older, there is something refreshing about someone admitting, ‘I had a great time and want to have sex with you.’”

MICHAEL T, 35:
“There is nothing wrong with sex on the first date or the last date. The first thing is that the woman needs to be aware of what she wants and who she is. If she’s in tune with those things, she will have no problem. If she is a 2nd or 3rd date type of person, that’s fine, also. If a woman can say, without taking a breath, that she wants to sleep with me and feels good about it, she is probably someone I want to see again. If she is resisting because of social conditioning, then I probably will not want to sleep with her or date her.”


Chris, 30:
“I don’t make judgments about a woman one way or the other about how long it took her to have sex with me. But, if anything, I’d say liberated. It’s nice to see a woman who knows what she wants and isn’t afraid to get it.”


H.R., 30:
“I don’t think ill of her. I’m just happy that she was laid back and fun enough to run with the magic and the mood. She’s on the fast track to girlfriend.”
SEX ON FIRST DATE MARRY
This man gets more specific on the qualifiers for “non-slutty first date sex”, illustrating the general consensus that there should be a “strong connection”:
V.M., 30:
“It depends on why a woman has sex on the first date. Let’s be honest, you women know whether you’ll sleep with a man by the time we introduce ourselves, so most of the time, if a kiss happens on the first date, that decision is known and stopping short becomes a formality, and then sex just happens on the second date, anyway. A chronic case of first date sex would indicate that a woman is lacking in good judgment or reckless, but if the chemistry is just that strong, go with it. It’s definitely liberating. Moving too fast is a phrase so tired that it’s meaningless. A woman has to be in touch with her emotions to deal with first date sex. If you want to and feel comfortable, why not? If you don’t, don’t.”

We have these matter-of-fact comments from the 20s group:
Mick, 23:
“Honestly we are all adults here, and guys aren’t the only ones who have needs.”
Sean, 22:
“I’d say if she wanted to and was fine with, that it wouldn’t be a big deal. I feel it’s more old school to wait months.”

Dan, 61: “If you mesh, do it. Life is too short to play games; have fun.”

5 guys said it didn’t matter if there was a connection/chemistry, first date sex was still ok. 2 are in their 50s, the others are as follows:
Shep, 32: “It doesn’t make sense to me to think of a girl as slutty after I slept with her so soon because I slept with her, so what does that make me? In a perfect world, I would love all women to give it up right away, lol, but it’s not a perfect world.”
Another guy in the Age Unknown group echoed that sentiment, “Why does a guy get props, but a girl is a whore?”

Hugh, 42: “Yes, if there is chemistry, no if there is not with the exception of: no chemistry, but both clearly horny and drinking too much. Do it and move on.” Note: This is the man whose date flirted all night with the bartender–then he went home with her, anyway! (See Parts 1 and 2 of this dating survey.) He continues, “It doesn’t freak me out. It’s flattering, actually, that she digs me enough to put out on the first date.”

B.S., 40s group: “If she wants to fuck me, that is awesome. I love that, especially if she wants to fuck me again and again and again. In France, it’s just part of the date, a way to get to know someone…Ahh, French girls!”
So, to to all you guys out there having trouble getting laid–date French girls! They almost without exception reek of stale (and/or fresh) cigarette smoke, and their hygiene is questionable. But, if you aren’t odor-sensitive, don’t require rigid personal cleanliness, and don’t mind hairy legs and pits, Vive le France!

And, now, for the NOs…
A surprising (to me, anyway) 16 men Just Say “No” to First Date Sex. (Ref: Nancy Reagan, anyone?) Of them, 3 said it was “fast”, and 6 said it was “slutty”.

Michael F., 26: “When women want sex on the first date, they are really not looking for anything lasting.” Another 20-something echoed that, “It’s not slutty, but it’s not serious.”

Joseph, 31: “Sex on the first date is just slutty or desperate to try to get a guy to stick around. And I don’t date the type of girl that would because without a relationship, it’s meaningless and unsatisfactory .” So, does he think only the girl is slutty? No, he says. “It most definitely goes both ways, but you shouldn’t wave a steak in front of an animal and not be prepared for the consequences. Once the animal gets the steak, he doesn’t care about anything else, except maybe another steak.” Fire up the grill!

D.C., 30: “Absolutely not. I have a rule of a minimal of 10 dates before sex can happen. Could be longer. I think it’s trashy. But I have been dumped for waiting on sex too, so whatever. I love sex, but don’t think it should be a building block for a relationship.”

Bruce, 45: “I guess I look at things on a different level. Whoever a person sleeps with becomes a part of them forever. When I was young and handsome, I had women try to follow me home because they wanted to screw me. I always sent them on their way. A girl should be sure she hasn’t relegated herself as ‘Just some chick I banged off of Craigslist.’ Also, I would never sleep with a woman who was drunk. Would never want to wake up to, ‘Who the frik are you???’ “

Eddie, 44: “It’s difficult to take a woman seriously as anything more than a warm hole.”
A man from NYC agreed, “Slut alert”.

C.R., 44: “I am not a fan of sex on the first date. Maybe I’m just over it. I think sex can be something that people really take for granted. I have become someone who is really trying to go slow in all aspects and not rush into anything. I think maybe even more than a hug and kiss on the cheek may be too much for the first date. If you wanted it on the first date, I would be flattered, I would not think any less of you, but I would also say no. I’m not sure I’d say slutty, I’d just say a bit too fast for me.”

Richard, 51: “Moving too fast. There’s nothing liberating about sex on a first date. Slutty? No. Addictive behavior? Quite possibly. Pretty much throws the possibility of a relationship out the window. For a guy, anytime there is sex without an emotional connection and long term commitment, the focus of the relationship becomes sex. Developing an emotional attachment takes a back seat to the sex.”

Andrew, 55: “NO!!! I like the chase, and in my experience, women who give it up on the first date are nothing but trouble. Sure, I will fuck you if you let me, but you will not be my steady GF; you may be a FWB. It shows me that you are stupid and easily manipulated, not liberated.”

A bit of non-judgmental ambivalence comes from an older gentleman:
A.M., 60: “Actually, I prefer not, but, if she’s comfortable with the guy, then why not? It’s amazing that females hold onto morals that were placed on women, by women, during the 1940s and 50s. Let him be himself and you be yourself and just have a good time together.”
A man from San Francisco (Age Unknown group) was laughably ambivalent:
“Generally not a good idea, but it depends on the chemistry and how long since you got laid.”

And, finally, we have a man who, doesn’t think it’s slutty, just dangerous.
Pietro, 50s group: “If this was pre-AIDS or the 1960s, the answer would probably be ‘yes’ if all the planets aligned properly—but today it might be a death sentence, so the answer is NO, NO, NO to any exchange of fluids without testing and a lot of trust built-up over more than a few dates. ”
Well, if that’s not a Public Service announcement for abstinence…!SEX ON FIRST DATE CHUBBY T-SHIRT

Thanks, again, to all of the men who participated in my survey!